Mindset for Success (The following description is from the The Gardner Institute web site and is written by Dr. Jayne Gardner. Further information can be found at www.thegardnerinstitute.com. I am a certified Mindset for Success coach. I can help you reach your True Self!)
The process called Mindset for Success (also known as The Dialogues) starts you on a course for unplugging from external authority and finding your True Self. The 12 Dialogues culminate in defining your interior life and then learning to live life in your newly awakened True Self.
Since developing the spiritual process in the early nineties, I have received an overwhelming validation of their need and value. During the last twenty years, I have continued to make them available to my clients as well as other coaches who want to bring them to their clients. The Dialogues have begun their travel around the world and now encompass a global society.
My intention is, and always has been, that the universal spiritual process of The Dialogues is not to be associated with any one religion but rather it honors and includes all people. Indeed, The Dialogues are a religion of life, a joyous celebration of everyone’s innate spiritual nature and power. Students have reported deeply moving experiences resulting in awakening to the presence of this internal spirit. We are all one. Thus, uncovering the spirit within each of us holds forth the promise of an eternal life for us all.
With the latest developments in neuroscience, I am now confirming what is behind their success. The Dialogues sustain the change because they change the brain.
Before describing these Dialogues in detail, here are some broader concepts concerning the exercises.
In our original child state-of-being, we are open and flexible in the way we interact with the world. The brain is a very plastic organ at birth easily molded by our experiences in our early life. The sparkling aliveness of a child illustrates this divine state in which feelings naturally unfold.
Certain ideas and opinions, planted in us as reality by the authorities in our lives, are often detrimental to the natural expression of our feelings. A particularly powerful authority figure can dominate our behavior, inhibit our ability to assimilate new ideas and information, and “freeze” our natural flow of feelings. This external influence can cause our brain to become repetitious and produce blocks to our creative flow of energy. As a result, we adopt a False Self to handle this dominating authority-presence in our lives.
These external influences force us to protect, even hide, our original True Self and to adopt a way to cope with such pressures. Conformity is the goal of the False Self, and we accept certain false beliefs that stymie our natural expression of feelings. As the True Self is lost, our False Self chooses a particular coping style to handle the outside world, and we become a Controller, a Pleaser, an Avoider, a Perfectionist, Critic, or Doubter. Our inner dialogue can become negative, avoiding, judgmental, doubting, blaming, or critical. The journaling process, established in the 12 stages of The Dialogues, creates the structure for reworking our past heritage and restoring our original true or positive voice. Each of us hears a running dialogue in our head each day – some are positive thoughts, but most are negative injunctions.
The quickest way to reinstate the flow of our spontaneity and movement toward growth is to begin to listen to our own internal dialogue. After several days of dialoguing, a clear image of our False Self emerges. With this image, comes the chance to uncover your True Self and put it in charge of your life.
Dialogue is the way you get to know yourself. Dialogue reclaims what is lost in growing up – the ability to feel fully and freely and in the moment. These Dialogues are already in you – waiting to be heard.